As a Christian Believer, one must:
- Resist and overcome the pull of the world that rages against the things of Almighty God by living a life contrary to the world’s ways of doing things (godless society).
- View life from a heavenly perspective (the way He sees it).
Women of God should have a God-centered perspective of the world by viewing everything from this vantage point. Unlearning incorrect information may take some time because of the persistent barrage of misinformation that continues to intertwine itself into the culture of today, but it can be done.
Today's society has not only blurred the definitions of right and wrong. Behaviors and attitudes that were formally acknowledged as morally wrong, are not only seen as right but those who oppose these morally corrupt actions are persecuted. This is antagonistic to the ways of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. For example:
- Society tells us to hate our enemies and to avenge ourselves of the wrongs done to us.
- The Lord tells us to love our enemies and do good to them. (Matthew 5:44)
- Society believes that there isn’t anything wrong with telling a little white lie as long as it does not hurt anyone.
- God has strong disgust or abhorrence for lying. (Proverbs: 12:22)
What is a God-centered perspective?
A God-centered perspective is one that places God Almighty at the center of one’s life. God should be the filter in which every action, word, and thought goes through resulting in a sifting away of everything that is not like Him. For example, the planet Earth receives its light and heat (for survival) as it revolves around the sun. The sun is the center of life and without the life-sustaining sun, the Earth could not survive. This principle can be applied to Christians.
I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing. (John 15:5 AMPC)
Without the life-giving Son of God (Jesus), believers could not survive. Likewise, branches cannot survive without their connection to the vine or stem which gives the branches their nourishment, structure, and support. In contrast, believers cannot live as the disciples of Christ without first getting the nourishment that is needed to live life the way He intended them to live.
For the Lord knows and is fully acquainted with the way of the righteous, but the way of the ungodly [those living outside God’s will] shall perish (end in ruin and come to naught). (Psalm 1:6 AMPC)
Strong’s Concordance defines the word “watches over” as to be fully acquainted with or to know the path in which the godly walk. The Hebrew word for watches is the word yada, which means to recognize, to reveal oneself, or to have knowledge. In addition, the word path from the phrase “path of the godly” is the Hebrew word derek which means journey, director or course of life. We can see from this scripture that godly people are those whom the Lord watches over by revealing Himself and directing the course of their lives. There are other benefits for separating ourselves from the world.
But know that the LORD has set apart the godly for Himself; the LORD hears when I call to Him. (Psalm 4:3 ESV)
The Hebrew word pala is translated “to set apart” and also means to be distant, separated, or distinguished and set apart. Hence, God wants us to be set apart for Him and then He will hear us when we call.
For You bless the righteous, O LORD; You cover him with favor as with a shield. (Psalm 5:12 ESV)
The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when he delights in His way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the LORD upholds his hand. (Psalm 37:23-24 ESV)
We are also reminded that the Lord blesses the godly and surrounds them with His shield of love. He directs the steps of the godly and delights in every detail of their lives. It is also noted in scriptures that the godly:
- Offer good counsel and teach right from wrong (Psalms 37:29)
- Will flourish like palm trees and grow strong like the cedars of Lebanon (Psalm 92:12)
- Are generous, compassionate, and righteous (Psalm 112:4)
- Are rescued by the Lord because He is their fortress in times of trouble (Psalm 37:39 NLT)
- Will not slip and fall when the godly give their burdens to the Lord (Psalm 55:22)
This isn’t only an Old Testament concept.
But you, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness. (1 Timothy 6:11 AKJV)
After Jesus ascended, in the New Testament, Paul told Timothy to pursue righteousness and a godly life along with faith, love, perseverance, and gentleness. This means that a godly life doesn’t happen automatically, we must work to have it!
What does it mean to be godly?
Godliness can be defined as being pious, reverencing God and His character, and laws. The Jewish Encyclopedia defines godliness as one who loves mercy, walks humbly with God, has a desire and is pursuing to learn and walk in the ways and truths of God with a singleness of mind reverencing Him. In a nutshell, to be godly is to live a righteous lifestyle imitating God.
As believers, we can no longer imitate the world and be a part of its traditions, rituals, and organizations that are not of God. If we are to represent the Lord in all that we do, we must separate ourselves from worldly things.
So, come out from among [unbelievers], and separate (sever) yourselves from them, says the Lord, and touch not [any] unclean thing; then I will receive you kindly and treat you with favor… (2 Corinthians 6:17 AMPC)
The New Testament instructs us to come out from among unbelievers by separating ourselves so that we can receive the Lord’s favor. The world is at enmity with God and if we are imitating the world, we are not living by the Lord’s standards. We have been called to a higher standard of living which includes:
- The way we dress
- Our actions
- Our speech
The Way We Dress
Our apparel should be modestly appropriate and not seductive to deliberately arouse ungodly desires in others. There are many examples of women in the Bible who used sexuality to gain power:
- Herodias’ daughter who demanded the head of John the Baptist after a seductive dance - Mark 6:14-29
- Delilah who betrayed Sampson for money - Judges 16:17-19
- Jezebel who ruled by manipulating her husband Ahab, caused Israel to practice idolatry, which is spiritual fornication - 1 & 2 Kings
It is very tempting to use “womanly wiles” to receive attention or get what we want, however, that is not godly. As Christians, we should look for the Lord’s favor to open doors for us, not tempting men into lustful behaviors by revealing too much flesh.
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. (1 John 2:16 AKJV)
We should not model our lifestyles after the world since it is against the precepts and principles of God and following the dictates of the enemy through lust and pride, which includes the way we dress. Although we are not responsible for the way others perceive us, we are accountable for what we do and the motives or reason behind our actions. One of the traits of a Jezebel spirit is the desire for attention.
If we are to represent God Almighty, then we must carry ourselves in such a way that honors our Lord. Single women who want to get married, do not have to wear seductive clothing to “find a husband.” Women should ask themselves, “What type of husband do I want to attract?” “Do I want a husband who is drawn to the lust of the eyes (flesh) or one who is drawn to a godly character?”
As women of God, we should look at ourselves in the mirror before leaving the house, to ensure that our clothing is not:
- Too tight
- Too short
- Too sheer
- Showing too much cleavage
In no way, should we mimic the world nor send the wrong message to others. As a single woman, one may feel that drawing attention to oneself is good, but is it the right kind of attention that you want to draw to yourself?
Men must also ask themselves, what type of woman am I drawn to? Do I lust after a woman in revealing clothing who is showing too much skin, therefore, allowing lust to come into my life? Or do I quickly look away and say a prayer for the Lord to enlighten her about how she is dressed? If you give lust a place, you may wind up with a wife dominated by a Jezebel spirit.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:10-12 AKJV)
When two people are walking with the Lord and find each other, it is a beautiful blessing. If you are looking for a woman you should be looking for someone having or showing high moral standards. God will bring you the right partner in His time if you will focus on the Lord. As long as you are headed down the path to your destiny, the perfect spouse for you will show up on that path.
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18 ESV)
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22 ESV)
According to scripture, God wants each person to find a partner in life. It will bring favor from the Lord when a man finds a wife and not when a wife finds a man.
Jesus knows the hearts and motives of everyone and will give us what He wants us to have according to His timing. So do not fret, but trust in the Lord. We are all mandated to keep our eyes on the Lord by seeking His kingdom first. This means learning the right way of living in His kingdom and then He will add to our lives what is written in our destiny.
As believers, the world is closely monitoring us not only in the way we dress but also, in what we say and do. Those who are against our Lord, are looking for an occasion to prove that believers are not who they say they are because they are living like them (the world) and doing the same things that they do. Therefore, it is necessary that our outward appearance should reflect who we are in the Kingdom of God...citizens of Heaven.
In the Bible, Jezebel, the wife of King Ahab of Israel, was a cunning and domineering woman. By her cunningness, she killed those who opposed her including the prophets of the Lord. Jezebel usurped the authority of her husband by telling him what to do and how to proceed on kingly matters. Consequently, she emasculated her husband by taking his rightful authority as king and abusing that authority to manipulate and control others.
As a result, Ahab became subservient to her and was led astray by her deceptive tricks which were fueled by Satan. For example, when Ahab wanted Naboth’s vineyard, and Naboth refused to give it to him, Jezebel heard of this and devised a plan to have Naboth killed so that Ahab could forcefully take his land (1 Kings 21:1-15). In today’s society, Jezebel traits can be widely seen throughout the secular and non-secular world. You may see those in the church (leaders and laypeople) who want their way at any cost, using manipulative tactics to get what they want.
On one occasion, a Christian friend of the family, let's call her Tina, stated to another believer that the Lord said that she was to purchase an article of clothing for her to wear. The Lord had said no such thing to Tina, who wanted the blouse but did not have the money to pay for it, so she used the Lord’s name to try to manipulate another Christian into purchasing the blouse for her. Thankfully, the other woman saw what was going on and did not fall prey to the manipulation and deception.
As women of God, we must close the door to every Jezebelic trait, especially in our own lives to stay free of harsh attacks from the enemy. Additional information regarding Jezebelic traits and how to recognize and be free of these traits can be found in the CoH Academy 201 course.
In the same way, believers should take careful thought when speaking with others and about other people. Our words should be gracious, undefiled (no corrupt speech), gentle, and convey the love of God.
Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it. (Ephesians 4:29 AMPC)
Sometimes we have a tendency to speak from the issues that arise out of our hearts, whether good or bad, without taking much thought in our words. We should take this very seriously... our words have substance.
A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. (Proverbs 15:4 ESV)
With our words, we can bless or curse others even though we may be unaware that we are doing such. Negative words can have an impact on others because we are sending those words out into the atmosphere and agreeing with the enemy. However, speaking words of life can bring forth healing, encouragement, and a refreshing of the soul.
Watching what we say and how we say things is a lifelong battle but it is worth it if we want to walk in victory (avoiding the tricks of the enemy) in our lives. Is your speech sarcastic or full of snide remarks? Is your speech kind and gentle exuding the love of God? When you have been wronged, do you retaliate with harsh words in an effort to be heard or vindicated?
Some years ago, while living in an apartment complex, I had a problem with a neighbor who constantly placed notes on my car’s windshield because my car was parked near his apartment. After speaking with the complex management office, I was told that no one had a designated parking space so we could park where we wanted.
Finally, I met the man who left the note and explained to him what management had told me. As he argued with me and we argued back and forth with one another, his anger was increasing. Then all of a sudden it hit me, I was not showing the love of God.
I stopped mid-sentence, looked at him eye to eye, and said, “The parking space doesn’t matter. I will park somewhere else.”
His anger immediately subsided and he seemed so shocked that he said to me after pleading his case of why he should park in that particular space, that the parking space was not a big deal and not to worry about it because he did not care about it anymore. Within moments, the situation was rectified and everything went back to normal (I gave him the parking space that he wanted).
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1 ESV)
At that moment, I saw this scripture in action. The gentle nudge from the Holy Spirit and my response of obedience quickly diffused what could have been a volatile situation.
Even meaningless words can be dangerous.
But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness… (2 Timothy 2:16 ESV)
Christians should avoid meaningless talk because it does not bring glory to God and may lead us to gossip. As believers, we must learn to bridle (restrain) our tongues and think before we speak.
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts. (Proverbs 18:8 NIV)
It can be very tempting to listen to gossip, but we must learn to say, “I don’t feel comfortable talking about that without the people involved being here.” We can also excuse ourselves from the conversation and walk away from this situation. Our goal should be to represent Christ in every situation. I’ve noticed that when I take a stand against negative speech, others around me will avoid gossiping or excuse themselves from the conversation while I am present. This is the job of a godly woman: we are the defenders of righteousness, the control valve, in our presence people don’t want to sin.
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